Sheloshim
Sheloshim, Thirty days since Judah was buried. Four weeks on Saturday. A day before Rosh HaShana.
Alissa, Benji and I will go to Shul to mark the end of the formal mourning period. We can cut our hair, Benji can shave, and we can wear new clothes. We are not required to go to daily minyan for Kaddish. Its a strange transition that feels like it is being imposed upon us. I am not ready to "move on". the loss is too great. Friends and family are supporting us through this period.
Judah loved the holidays, and we are trying our best to make the holyday as we always had. I want to wish you all a Shana Tova U Metukah, a sweet New Year filled with dreams come true .
Love,
The Whites
posted by The Whites @ 9:20 PM
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Martha, Issy and Benji,
I can't believe it's already been a month, and shloshim is over. I really hope that this terrible pain and hurt will diminish, and that you will be comforted by the wonderful and warm memories of Judah.
Shana Tovah u'metukah. I wish you all a sweet, peaceful and happy New Year with an abundance of good things coming to you.
Love,
Janet
Martha, It was so nice to see you and your father today. Thirty days seems both like so long ago and only just yesterday. I meant what I said about Judah's death being the impetus for so many old friends to start to reconnect. It is certainly among his legacies.
Know that you, Benji, Issy and Judah are in our thoughts and prayers. Shana Tova u'metukah.
-Lisa and Gary Lainer
Dear Martha, Issi & Ben -
The end of shiloshim and the advent of Rosh Hashona must be so hard for you.
I'm sorry that I can not be out there to be with you during this period.
May the New Year bring all of you only good things and may the transition to this new phase of your lives be done with as little pain, anguish and anger as possible.
Love, Robby
We just returned from Cemona, Italy. For Lou (an amateur violinist), it was a pilgrimage to see and hear the oldest, finest violins in the world. As you walk through the Stradavari museum, you hear recordings of the violins being played, as they must be "exercised" every day. We heard the usual Bach and Vivaldi, and then, all of a sudden, "Danny Boy" came through, soft, clear and heart-tugging. We thought of Grandpa Abe, Judah, and all of you. We're home now, filled with wishes for a year that brings peace to your hearts and sweet and beautiful things into your lives. Love, Barbara
Dear Whites,
I wish you all a peaceful new year filled with good things to come your way.
Love,
Cindy C.
Dear Whites
I thought of you all day yesterday at services. I know this must be a most difficult Rosh Hashana for you. It is so hard to believe that it has been a month.
You are in my thoughts.
Jill Franklin
Dear Martha, Issy, and Benji:
A new year, albeit one that will feel considerably sadder and less full than years past have felt. I miss Judah terribly and find myself replaying the years of our friendship in my head time and time again.
My best wishes for you all,
David
Martha (and Benji and Issy)
Adding our wishes for healing and a restorative time for you in this coming year of 5766. Of course we thought of Judah during the u'netaneh tokef prayer during musaf on both days of rosh hashana. Judah was the one who was taken "lo b'kitz'o"--before he had reached the fullness of days. I was standing weeping silently and behind me was an old friend who lost her father less than a month ago. he was 95 and had been able to continue to work until a few months before his cancer diagnosis disabled him. He was a case of someone who died "b'kitz'o"....we held hands and whispered that we were both thinking the same thing about these two losses. Not a day passes when I don't think about Judah--several times a day. I too am so impressed by the legacy he left for so many people whose lives he touched.
wishing you g'mar chatima tova and peace, and of course, shabbat shalom.
nechama
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