Judah's Funeral Info
Judah passed away at 4:42. His heartline went flat and his color began to change from ruddy to green. Several minutes later a young doctor came in and confirmed his death. The ventilator was removed while Mom spoke to Dr. Forman on the phone. Thelma, his nurse, began to pray over his body. While we don't share her religion, we share her heartfelt sentiments.
Judah's funeral will take place at Mount Sinai Memorial Park in SIMI VALLEY on Monday, September 5th at 11 am. Please note that Mount Sinai has two locations, one in Burbank/Hollywood Hills, and one in Simi Valley (http://www.mountsinaiparks.org)
All of Judah's friends are welcome. We know he touched many lives beyond those we know by name. We hope those who can make it will.
Please send us your name and email addresses. There are so many people we've yet to meet who have been readers of and contributors to the blog. Do not assume that we know your contact info, but do assume that we'd like to.
posted by The Whites @ 4:58 AM
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91 Comments:
Over the weeks I have said how lucky Judah is to have such a wonderful devoted caring loving family. But luck had nothing to do it with it – your family and all their traits is what made Judah – Judah. And that is why we all love him and miss him so dearly.
Judah – I know you are still listening - Our hearts are broken and our tears are streaming. We will not say good-bye – our relationship is just going to change a bit – we will still find comfort in you, scream at you, laugh with you, feel your pride and sense of wonder.
We love you and always will.
David, Stacie and Zoe
Dear cousins,
No words can express the grief in my heart. Sending love and hugs to all of you. Diane
Dear White Family,
Judah's courage and fight have been a model for all of us. We will miss our dear friend but feel we have been blessed that our lives have been enriched by knowing all of you.
With condolences and love.
Michael, Beth and Sam Woznica
Judah still has work to do. Somewhere in the heavens we are convinced that there is a closet of souls preparing to enter this world. In that closet is Mara's little girl's soul. We know that Judah is working hard to help prepare that soul to enter this world. We hope and pray that Judah makes sure that she shares his same strength and goodness.
Thank you for sharing Judah with us. We are all the better for it.
Debbie Dyner, David, Noah & Adam Harris
My heart is broken.
Barbara Ravitz
bravitz@gmsr.com
Dear White family,
I admire all of you so much. You are all amazing people and my prayers go out to you.
I have thought a lot recently about just how fortunate I have been to be friends with Judah over the years. From things I have learned about myself and life through him, to the endless number of good times we shared, to the numerous other wonderful people that I was able to meet through Judah, it has been and continues to be a blessing.
Judah may be gone physically, but his spirit will always be with me, and in that sense he will never be gone.
You friend always,
Mike (mickey)
Goodbye friend. I love you. I miss you. I still can't comprehend this, but I'm comforted by the fact that I know you're finally at peace, that you're looking over all of us, inspiring us, and you're with your father (say hi to mine while you're up there). I can't wait to tell this little girl all about you - more so than I already have. I know you'll be a big influence in her life - in spirit and through the love and stories all of us have to share. I'm so blessed to have had you in my life. I miss you and love you always.
Martha, Benji and Issy - all my deepest love, sympathy and tears.
Mara B
Dear Martha and family, So so sorry to read the sad news this morning. He was a lucky young man to have such a caring and loving family.Our thoughts will always be with you. May his memory be a blessing to all of you. With our love and heartfelt wishes, Cis and Steve
Whether or not you believe in heaven, may you find strength in Judah's memory and peace in the love he brought into your lives. As soft tears stream down my cheeks, I know Judah will continue to be loved by his family and friends. May you all be comforted in this time of grief.
Michael
For once I am at loss for words. Judah, rest in peace my friend. Your body is whole again. Shalom. Watch over my baby boy until I can hold him and care for him myself.
White family, there is nothing to be said to express my sorrow and that of so many, many people who loved Judah. You are special people. You gave Judah a wonderful life, and a beautiful passing. G-d bless you. Thank you for this blog. Even in your worst moments you thought about the rest of us and we appreciate it more than we can ever say.
May G-d also bless all the staff at City of Hope who took such good care of Judah these past months.
Jill Franklin
Dearest Martha, Benji, Issy and Grandpa
We grieve with you the loss of your very special Judah who you shared so generously with all of us. We are all so blessed to have known him and will never forget him. Judah will live forever in our hearts which are now broken in sorrow.
With all our love,
Stella and Les
Dear White Family,
I am so very sorry to hear of Judah's passing. I was a friend of his more than 10 years ago, yet I recall him fondly. May you find peace.
Forever in my heart,
Tony Sweet
Oakland, CA
May Judah fly on wings of angels to a peace and joy unbounded.
Gay and David Silberg
114 N. La Peer Drive
Beverly Hills, CA 90211
(310) 659-2961
If there is anything that any of you need to help with arrangements-- pickups of people from out of town, help at home, do not even think twice about calling us.
My dear friends,
Even for those of us who haven't known him for decades, Judah touched our lives and changed our lives in ways we can only begin to realize in his life as he will in death...he is one of those rare people it was an honor and privilege to have known. And because he was Judah, when you cry and when the many who know you cry right alongside you, may you always also laugh, because loss and memory are never very far apart.
Martha, Benjie, Issy and Abe, in Judah's agonizing illness and death, you have also touched us and changed us with your nonstop demonstrations of love without reservation. There is no doubt
that Judah knew always that you were there for him and will smile upon you always. Judah was the best, and his only competitors are right in his family.
With love, respect, awe and sadness,
Andrea
Dear White Family,
Our hearts are with you.
Love,
Maggie, Joe, and Russ
I'm not sure if you have my new address or not. Just in case, here it is:
Mara Benjamin & David Naiditch
17540 Haynes St.
Lake Balboa, CA 91406
mbenjamin@getty.edu
my complete info is:
Tamar Tamler
724 Silver Lake Blvd. #4
LA CA 90026
(323) 449-8363
tamler225@earthlink.net
i am more than happy to help with anything you need.
Dearest Martha,
My heart goes out to you and your family. I feel like Judah is in a beautiful cloud of your love.
With warmest thoughts and deepest sympathies.
Vicki Pass
Our thoughts and prayers are here, holding you at this sad time. Judah was a good friend to many, and so many will feel his absence.
Sending our love to the entire White family,
Lisa and Gary Lainer
lgsl@earthlink.net
Dear Martha & family,
No words can express our sadness for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Judah will always be in our hearts.
Love,
Julie Fertonani misskitti26@hotmail.com
Karin Feiles
mkraffi@sbcglobal.net
Juli Ellyn
juli@locs.com
Dearest Martha, Issy, Benji, Grandpa and family,
I am left without new words to add to the tears and testaments of love for your grief and your family conveyed through this blessed blog.
May you be comforted amongst the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
With Love,
Ben G
i have been trying to think of something to say all morning, and i come up with nothing.
i send my deepest, most heartfelt condolences.
cindyrosenberg@gmail.com
I have been deeply inspired by Judah's inner strength that kept him fighting over these last few months. Judah my good friend, I will miss but not forget your unique ways in tumbling through life -- whether it is the your approach to appropriate basketball attire at our Tuesday night basketball games during high school and college summers, your success in never having a job in the 21st Century or your simple approach to seeking out happiness in a crazed and often too fast paced world.
White Family - Judah's inner strength is clearly a family trait that will continue on. Your love and compassion for Judah and his wishes were amazing to watch and experience via this blog. This blog itself is a testament to your willingness to share Judah with his friends at a time when the door is often shut to family members only. You are truly a remarkable clan. Please take my heartfelt condolences.
With much love,
O
Owen Solomon
osolomon@gpfm.com
I was driving this week listening to a band called EastMountainSouth and this song jumped out at me. It is called Mark's Song. So incredibly painful to listen to yet so appropriate. Today it is Judah's Song:
may your soul be blessed
may your body rest
on the mountain where you were born
may your spirit soar
where there's joy ever more
may you find your way in peace
and there’s no more harm
in your g-d’s strong arms
see you fly away in the sky
did you hear the call of angels one and all
may you find your way peace
may you know you’re loved
may you shine above on the mountain where you were born
may your spirit soar
there’s no pain anymore
may you find your way in peace
and there’s no more harm
in your g-d’s strong arms
see you fly away in the sky
did you hear the call of angels one and all
may you find your way in peace
may you find your way in peace
may you find your way in peace
All my love - Deb
I feel honored to have known Judah, and awed by your family's courage and unity of spirit. I think back to July when I saw Judah last, and we talked politics and life. And before that back to Israel, where we dined and shared stories. He was a remarkable man and from far away I will miss him.
My thoughts are with you there, and with him always.
Much love,
Sharon A.
My truest condolences to all of the White family. May Judah's life continue to inspire us all.
Gina Kampler-Lapiner
GLapiner@sbcglobal.net
dear martha
when we saw judah five weeks ago you told me don't cry now i cry and cry lots of love to you and issy and benjie avigail and yehuda
Our thoughts and prayers are with you...
Craig, Ellen, Cameron, Nicole, and Ethan Pollack
Tears flow, as I am without words to acknowledge this painful loss of such an amazing, brave, and wonderful friend. Thank you for keeping us all so close through this blog.
Martha, Benji, Issy, Grandpa, family, and fellow bloggers,
May we all find comfort in our wonderful memories and love for Judah in all the days ahead.
With heartfelt sympathy, and love,
Coco
My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Judy Feldman
Debbie Dyner Harris and David Harris- our contact info:
jamaicathewonderdog@adelphia.net
Dear White family,
I'm not sure if you had my contact info. Here it is:
Mike Lewis
837 S. Westgate Ave, #2
Los Angeles, CA 90049
310-571-0731
mlewis67@yahoo.com
Please let me know if I can help in any way.
Dear White Family,
My deepest condolences to you and your family. While I only knew Judah for a brief time, I'm so happy I had the opportunity to meet such a wonderful person.
You are all an inspiration and a model of courage, love, and hope. Thank you for this blog and for sharing Judah with all of us. May you be comforted by the memories and love of your son, brother, and friend.
Warmly,
Aimee Bittenson
aimeeb@pacbell.net
Dearest Martha:
Our hearts are filled with sadness.May your wonderful memories of Judah sustain you in this time of sorrow. Judah is with his father now.He is at peace.
With all our love
Gabe and Zipora L.
To the entire White family,
This blog has shown me that Judah's strength didn't come from nowhere. It certainly runs in the family. You have all shown incredible strength through a truly extraordinarily difficult time.
May the time to come bring you all peace, and peace to Judah.
My mother, Rochelle, my cousin Rabbi Josh Katzan, and I will see you in person at the funeral.
Thank you again for keeping us all so informed.
Love,
Yvonne
Dear White Family-
You've redefined the true essence of family and we are grateful that you allowed us to enter into your life during such an emotional stage.
Our sincerest thoughts remain with you.
Cheryn, Michael and Bree Serenco
CherMiamiOH@aol.com
MSerenco@aol.com
Dear Martha & Family,
So sorry to have heard and read of your profound loss.
Please accept our condolences and blessings.
Mark & Sharon Friedman
Others have already said it more eloquently than I ever could, but my heart and thoughts are with all of you right now.
But thinking about Judah always has and always will make me smile and laugh -- he still has that effect, all these years later.
Nancy Volpert
nvolpert@cgs.org
Hamakom yinachem etchem......
there are truly no words to really comfort this loss.
I have fond memories of growing up with Judah at Adat Shalom and Herzl School.
I wa saddened to hear about Judah's illness and devasted to learn this morning in Shul of Judah's passing.
To Matha, Alyssa, and Benji-we send you our love.....
Michelle Porjes, Ethan and Noah
To the White family,
I am a lifelong friend of Marsha and Robby and I have been reading your website since you created it. I am deeply saddened by the loss of Judah. He was blessed to be surrounded by those who love him.
My thoughts are with you.... Evie Goldfine
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Benjamin and Dayle England
BEngland8@hotmail.com
Dear Issy, Benji and Martha,
My heartfelt sympathy, condolences and love to you all. Love, Joanne Nach
Dear Martha, Alyssa, Ben,
You have my deepest sympahties. I'm very proud of Judah and his courageous fight.
Rob
rsolovy@adelphia.net
Dearest Martha, Issy, Benji and family......
How we have prayed for your strength and courage as it took you through this terrible time. We are absolutely awed by your example of love, dignity and human morality and we offer our very, very deepest and heartfelt condolences as you mourn for Judah. May you be comforted in knowing that his suffering is over, may his light always shine and may you always be surrounded by those that love you.
As always..... Raphael & Jackie Nach
I am so sorry for your loss - I hope that your wonderful memories of time spent together will comfort you during this difficult time.
Yael Weinman
Washington, DC
(friend of Erika Henik)
Jackie Nach: jnachart@adelphia.net
Raphael Nach: RNach10500@aol.com
Dear White Family,
People never know what to say when something like this happens, never know how to formulate thoughts, comfort the family, comfort themselves.
Because of this blog, we have learned. That is a gift, a mitzvah.
Instead of thinking that you are all alone in the midst of a world that cannot possibly understand, you know now you are supported and sheltered by the hearts and minds of many.
That invisible yet powerful support structure is also a gift of this blog, and a gift from Judah. May it help, as much as anything can, in the time ahead.
With love,
Danny Kodmur [Lisa's brother]
633A Liberty Street
El Cerrito, CA 94530
dkodmur@comcast.net
Dear Dear Martha;
What can I or anyone say to you.
I don't have an answer, there aren't any.
Hug your dad and your children!
Much love.
Ludwig-Louise
We are thinking of Judah's incredibly special family----Martha, Grandpa, Benji and Issy---We hope and pray that you all find comfort in each other.
Love,
Michelle, David and Hillary
Dear Martha, Issy and Benji,
How deeply saddened I am to hear of Judah's passing. You have all shown such tremendous courage as you cared for your wonderful son and brother. I will join your family and Judah's many friends on Monday.
Lots of Love,
Hali Helfgott
halilynn@earthlink.net
Dear White Family,
We extend our deepest condolences on the loss of Judah, your dear son, brother, and grandson. Please be comforted by the support of your family and community.
Shalom
Marlene & Barry Horwitz
To my dear friend Judah:
It breaks my heart that you never got a chance to see the footage I took from our Ulpan reunion, a party commemorating a trip during which you and I were practically inseparable. As I watch it now, I marvel at how you and I, during recent visits, revisited -- yea, relived -- our sixteen year-old selves.
Is time illusory in nature? Are those pieces of our lives -- or our lives in total -- ever truly gone? I think not, dear Judah; the thirty years during which you were my friend may have been finite in number, but the lifetime it entailed is infinite in nature.
David Kukoff
Dear Dr. White, honey,
We will miss you.
Martha and Ralph Carmel
I write this through flowing tears, like everyone else-It is so surreal that Judah is not with us anymore,and while I took comfort in my friendship with Judah when we met during college and hoped it would last a life time, I suppose that I find comfort in that his body is finally at peace. Judah, I pray that your spirit is at peace as well.
Thank you White family for this blog- It was the epitome of Bikur Cholim in that it allowed especially those of us who live far away the chance to "visit" him and let him know how often we thought of him and how much we prayed for him.I'm sure it helped sustain him by letting him know on a daily basis how many loved him and were rooting him on...
Judah leaves us behind but he leaves knowing the vast love that people had for him in this world.
Words cannot describe how much we will miss you, Judah- Your time with us was cut short, but it is evident how many of us you have touched with your gentleness and strength.
Hamakom Yenachem Etchem...
Adina (Jaffe) Lipson
58 Mountain Ave.
Rockaway, NJ 07866
adinajl@aol.com
To Martha and her family,
Ira and I are so saddened to hear the news that we had been hoping would never come. I know how hard it is for you, and would do anything we could to help. Just know that you were & are a wonderful mother and that love never dies.
Wishing you peace.
Rhona
Dearest Martha, Issy, Benji and Grampa Abe,
I have been telling the "girls" bedtime stories for 4 weeks now. It started with stories about princesses and dragons and 3 weeks ago I started telling them stories about JudahDaniel. They are convinced that he is an unique type of superhero like Zorro. I left them last night with a cliff hanger and do not know what to say
tonight.
Our deepest sympathy and condolences. Please know that I am here and ready to do anything.
with much love, Suzanne
Dear Martha:
My deepest condolences and prayers go to you and your family. Although I
did not have the honor of knowing
Judah, I have learned so much about
him from your words in this blog.
He will always be a blessing.
Love,
Wendy Yano
Dear White Family,
I have read this blog daily, sometimes even more, for the past few months trying to keep up to date on my old friend, from 9 years ago, Judah. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. We have been given the opportunity to share a little more time with Judah that we may never have had otherwise.
You are truly a family filled with love, dedication, courage and strength and are a model to us all.
I send my heartfelt condolences to you and everyone who has been touched by Judah's life.
May your wonderful memories of Judah help you through this time.
Fondly,
Sheri (Wohlgemuth) Galante
My contact info:
Jill (Franklin) and Greg DeMatoff
1811 W. Winnemac Ave., Unit D
Chicago, IL 60640
jillfr@aol.com
Thanks again for the blog. It meant so much to us.
Dear White Family,
I send my condolences to you and your family. I have been following the very touching blog about Judah and the loving people all around him-- thank you for sharing and giving us all the ability to learn more about Judah, ourselves, and the special people who love him through your sharing.
May you be comforted by God, family and friends, at this very difficult time.
David Smith
Hashem u'nachem etchem b'toch sha'ar evlay tzion v'yershalyim.
We weep, we mourn, we send you our meager words of comfort and know that Judah will always be in our consciousness.
Nechama and Howard Tamler
833 E. Meadow Dr
Palo Alto, CA 94303
nechama@htamler.com
Dear White family -
My deepest condolences. It has been a long, difficult road and thank you for maintaining faith, and for keeping this blog. Judah will be missed deeply.
Packie
Dear White Family,
My deepest condolences. I did not have the pleasure of meeting Judah, but I feel honored to have shared in your experiences through the blog. You will all continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
B'Shalom
Vencie
martha and family-
we knew something wasn"t right this morning when we walked by your house this shabbos morning. we were hoping for the best but now we know that Judah is very peacful with Hashem. We know that it is difficult for you and your family....all of the love and care you gave to him. Our heartfeld sympathy goes out to you and your family.
Andy and Beverly Liggett
Dear Martha, Issy and Benji,
I am so sorry for your loss. Although I don't have many memories of Judah as an adult, I remember Judah as a smart, handsome,playful and charming kid. It is hard to believe that someone so young and vibrant has moved on. May his journey be peaceful and without pain. My thoughts are with you.
Love,
Dina Smith Glouberman
Although Judah is gone, we'll never forget him. He was a wonderful friend. He was honest, thoughtful, hilariously funny, and a great listener. I will miss our talks terribly. We feel honored that he signed our ketubbah, and feel comforted knowing that we will always be reminded of him as we glance at it hanging on the wall. We feel blessed to still have his incredible family in our lives.
We'll miss you Judes...
Roni, Brian, Ari & Lea Sokol
Judah was beautiful and strong and inspiring beyond belief. We were blessed to know him.
Thank you for sharing this part of his journey with us. May you all be blessed with comfort.
Shawn and Tom Fields-Meyer
shawn@fields-meyer.com
Judah, I miss you already. But your voice and spirit with be with us always. You are my source of inspiration and determination. Love you.
Your second sis,
Shiks
Dear Martha, Issy, Benji and Abe,
May your wonderful memories of Judah be a constant source of comfort to you. He was the most amazing person, with strength and substance that inspired us all. He fought such a courageous battle and is now at peace. My heartfelt condolences and love to all of you.
Love,
Janet
Dear Judah -
“Just yesterday morning they let me know you were gone. . . .”
There are no words. There are no words. But sad songs linger with memories of you.
And the memory of your dear mother so strong by your side; you there fighting with all your heart and soul - but fighting rendered prone. . . and choosing valiantly to hang on when all others long before would have cried out -"enough!" Truly you raged “against the dying of the light.”
Dear devoted Martha, staying so resolutely and unrelentingly by your side, matching your unconquerable spirit with her unswerving vigilance and care. Watching so hopefully, loving so completely – engaging us all, moving us all, keeping our hopes alive as the darkness closed in ever so tightly – until it choked our lingering hopes altogether of a sudden, like an untimely wind when one is cupping fragile candle-light. . ..
And the account of your last hours so stark and heart-wrenching - you in your grandfather's unyielding hands - hands that cradled you in your last moments with the same love that cradled you as a babe; hands that no doubt caressed your spirit into blessing those around you with yet a few more precious moments here; moments that yielded no surrender.
And when the end came, Benjie’s poignant description of your mother inconsolable and so alone in that crowded room; alone, and needing to be alone with her first born – I wept, and thought of Michelangelo’s Pieta, and wept again. Forever, when I see it, I will think of Martha. It is not for me to say, but I say it nevertheless - no mother should have to bear what dear Martha is bearing.
We have lost a great spirit, a dear heart, a beloved son, neighbor and friend. The world that was blessed with your gifts of goodness, devotion, compassion and decency, takes our tears now in your absence – may they create a morning mist of regeneration, of an inspired dedication to honor what you lived for and struggled to affirm.
We cannot say, we cannot relate nor convey what you meant, the loss you leave us with, the sudden stark numbing hole and now grappling to find sense where all seems so senseless. But left with the merest hope, hope that memories of you, of your remarkable spirit, will sustain us through this darkness; especially the memory of you so determined and unrelenting, unvanquished, never willing to surrender - against all odds – putting us to shame.
I looked at the sunset and felt something of your beauty and strength in the light that lingers last and strongest against the coming of the night.
“but I always thought that I’d see you again. . . “
This lyric haunts me as I walk into our living room – retrace the steps you took here the last time you graced our home – feel the loss of knowing our home will not be so honored again – and yet there is a sense of you here in the shadows and the stillness that I cannot describe. And still a certain resonance of your calm, assuring voice.
In truth, I believe that stalwart spirits such as your endure forever; find their place in the noble halls of their ancestors – those who lived, as you did, Judah - principled lives. Lives that were loving to all around them, just to all they encountered, kind to the less fortunate, and, unflinching in taking on the daunting consequences of good and noble choices,
Morris West summed up a life such as yours when he said,
"It costs so much to be a full human being that there are very few who have the enlightenment, or the courage, to pay the price. One has to abandon altogether the search for security, and reach out to the risk of living with both arms. One has to embrace the world like a lover, and yet demand no easy return of love. One has to accept pain as a condition of existence. One has to court doubt and darkness as the cost of knowing. One needs a will stubborn in conflict, but apt always to the total acceptance of every consequence of living and dying."
It does not seem like farewell, but we miss you Judah. We mourn losing you to being beyond where we can hold you here, we grieve for the ache you’ve left, especially for those closest to you – most of all your dear mother. We will never forget you, we will never let go of the memory of one who would not be tamed or intimidated by death’s untimely taunt – but fought to the end – until hands that loved so dearly lifted you up to a higher plane. Away from us, but I hope and pray – closer to the life you deserved, and that you made us all wish for, for you, and for one another.
With love, sympathy and hope – The Freeses, Paul, Denise, David & Leo
Dear Whites,
I feel lucky to have known such a good man.
Such a strong man.
I will keep my memories close.
My best to you.
Love,
Grant MacDowell
Iss, Martha, everyone;
You're in my thoughts this Sunday morning – warmth and sadness both.
with love,
Matt Cooper
Dear White Family,
I was so sorry to hear of Judah's passing. Our family has been hoping and praying for him all along. Thank you for sharing all that you have through this blog. It has taught me so much about the special person that Judah was, and about what a wonderful family you all are. After living across the street for so many years I'm sorry that it took a situation like this to get to know you all better.
With my deepest sympathy and hope that you are comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem,
Jennifer Miller Pollak
You are in our daily thoughts and prayers.
What a truly blessed young man Judah was to have you all in his life, as you were to have him.
May the love and memories you all shared keep him alive in your hearts.
Our most heartfelt condolences to all of you.
Love,
Beverly, Harold, Josh and Ashley Oliver
He fought hard. You did what he asked. It was now in G-d's hands.
Nothing was held back medically.
Just like Judah seemed to live his own life. No holding back.
He's not here in the world we know; but he is here with us in spirit and memories and no one can take that away.
Seymour and Judah are together. Watching over all of us. Two angels in spirits of unconditional love and empathy.
The struggle is over. But life is all of ours to give to each other and to our private memories of such a loved man.
May G-d's arms embrace you now in your time of anguish and sorrow.
Love forever and always,
Nina H.
I wanted to add how eloquent and beautiful each one of your blog entries were. They really touched our hearts and were so amazing. I am impressed by your composure through this all and your strength inspires me in all I do.
Sincerely,
Sheri (Wohlegemuth) Galante
74 Pacific Crest
Irvine, CA 92602
sgalante16@cox.net
Dear White Family,
My deepest condolences.
I feel so lucky to have known Judah.
nicole Fisher
nicolefisherphotos@mac.com
My deepest and heartfelt sympathy to the White family
Karen Silverman
My deepest and heartfelt sympathy to the White family
Karen Silverman
Dear White family,
I wish I knew what to say. I'm shocked and pained. May the Almighty give you strength to withstand this terrible loss. And may He comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
Dean W.
Dear Martha,
It happens, he was a real fighter, I
know everyday is a battle. What can we
say "our warm thoughts are with and the kids"
All our love,
Alvin and Barbara Dischler
Dear Martha & Family:
We are so saddened to hear of Judah's passing; he has been in our thougts & prayers on a daily basis for so long.
We pray that that the memories of the hard, insufferable days will diminish and in their place Judah's incredible zest & fight for life as well as that smile we remember will give you strength & sustenance. Judah is now at peace and we pray that you will shortly find a sense of peace as well.
Please call upon us if there is anything we can do. May Hashem bless you.
Miriam & Steve Kosberg
mkosberg@juno.com
To the White Family,
I had the honor of meeting your dear Judah nearly eleven years ago. I enjoyed his swift rhetoric and humor. Thank you for sharing his (your) fight with all. Your family has shown us such heart and fortitude. I am so sorry for your loss.
With Peace & Sadness,
Nalini M. Brigstocke
ohlini@yahoo.com
Dear Martha, Issy, Benji and family,
We send our heartfelt condolences to you.
We have lost touch over the years but through this site have been updated on how special Judah was and how many lives he touched in so many different ways. He will truly be missed.
We wish you strength and courage during this very difficult time.
With Love,
Danny, Gaby, Jenna and Noah Cosgrove
docscos@yahoo.com
310-441-3858
Dear Martha, Alyssa and Benji, Grandpa and Family,
Please accept my deepest condolences as you mourn Judah. You have been an inspiration to all of us, wrapping Judah in hope, strength, support and loving care, never leaving his side. May memories console you and help mend your broken hearts. May ha’makom comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
Sabine
smeyer@usc.edu
Dear White Family,
I went to high school with Judah, and had not seen him for twenty years until our reunion last year. At that time, one of our classmates told me that although it was difficult for Judah to be there that night, he wanted to see his old friends and classmates for what he knew would probably be the last time. My heart broke on the spot, and I have thought of Judah often since then, and wondered how he was doing. Tonight, I am deeply saddened to learn of his passing. My thoughts and prayers are with those he loved, and who loved him. May God sustain you.
Sonja Patrick
patricksonja@sbcglobal.net
How lucky Judah was to have such a devoted and loving family. There's no doubt that he felt your constant presence and care. It is something that everyone who knows your family personally or via this blog admires and respects.
It seems that your inner strength, poetic and profound words, wisdom, attention to details, unbelievable endurance, and binding love to your son and brother is somthing that everyone appreciates and learned from. I knew Judah through his buddy, Josh Katzan, and know that he will be so sorely missed by many people. But he will also continue to be thought of daily by so many that he encountered during his life and continue to have an impact on them. May you be comforted amongst the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
With warm thoughts and deep sympathy, Kathi Barnhard
Dear Family and Friends of Judah,
I am so sorry. I will always remember Judah's fun-loving personality, his wit, and zest for life. May Judah find peace and may you all find comfort.
love,
Mira Scharf
Dear Martha, Issy and Benji,
Our brief conversation yesterday began with a verbal "hug" and ended with a sense of raw grief. We both felt so inadequate in what we had to say to you. Worse yet, we thought that our comments made matters worse. So, I turn to the written word--hoping that it will bring you better comfort than our meagre words from yesterday.
It is difficult to say "Baruch Dayyan HaEmet" on the death of a young, brilliant and talented soul like Judah. His restless and searching intellect/spirit pushed him across intellectual and spiritual disciplines from law to healing. He found the bridge between the two of them during his years as a medical student in Israel. When we invited him for Shabbat lunch with Ora and Arnie Band [Ora was his Hebrew teacher] there was an immediate bond between us. His enthusiasm inspired us all.
When we saw him last December he patiently sat and explained his current precarious state of health. Betty told him that he did not need to continue the explanation, but he wanted to "teach." He wanted us to understand how his stem-cells were so difficult to match. It was as if he wanted to both teach and comfort at the same time. While speaking about himself he, of course, taught us lessons about how to face the reality of disease and death with hope. He helped us to come to terms with the limits of what human beings can do.
Martha, we have been through so much together. Distance has never been a deterrent to empathy and reaching out...the distance of space from the midwest and the distance of the times when we speak to one another are always closed by the first words we utter.
Now the problem is precisely distance because we would like to be physically present to you, Issy and Benji. We need to feel something concrete...to see you all and somehow to be a presence for you.
Unfortunately, we can do it only with words--speeding electronically now---and we shall call soon again. Perhaps then we can offer words of greater comfort and some healing.
Cliches seem to crawl out of every word I write, but I hope you all can sense the passion behind them. Job's comforters were well-meaning. They tried their best--we join that tradition--trying our best and knowing that the only answer to something like this is the voice out of the whirlwind.
HaShem Yenachem etChem betokh avelei Tziyyon veJerushalayim
Michael and Betty
I was so sad to hear the news of Judah. I haven't been in touch for years, but my mind keeps bringing up thoghts of him. He was a wonderful man with alot to teach us. The thing that stands out to me right now was his uncompromising sense of right and wrong. I remember being in situations with him and really being taken by that.
Sending thoughts and prayers.
Terry Berzansky Nadell
aram@nadell.org
Dear White Family,
I have been waiting to write until I could find the right words to say but they just aren't coming. With that said, I am so sorry for your loss and you continue to be in my prayers.
Judah will always have a special place in my heart. I loved that he was always very honest in his opinions but never, ever in a hurtful way. His dry wit kept me on my toes. His ability to find beauty in the world around me was a gift I always hoped would rub off on me.
I always knew that Judah had a lot of friends but it wasn't until Mike Lewis told me about this blog that I knew just how many people he could call friends. It is amazing.
With love,
Stephanie Gromaski
3751 Alabama Ave S #200
St. Louis Park, MN 55416
s_gromaski@yahoo.com
(612) 205-6196
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